Stories we tell ourselves

A “story” is a narrative that explains why things happened.

From the dictionary:

a : an account of incidents or events

b : a statement regarding the facts pertinent to a situation in question

Is a story real or not? It can be based on facts, in which case a story is real. But then in reality every fact is filtered through interpretation by the person who tells the story. You know the line about the winners writing the history books? What if history were told through the eyes of the ones who lost? Different story, right?

So let’s agree that story can never be fact.

When do we tell stories?

To explain things. The explanation is a reason for why things are the way they are. Sometimes we don’t know the reason but we don’t like uncertainty so we make up a reason. Or there could be other reasons but for whatever reason we choose one story and that becomes the story.

Like, he’s not calling back because he doesn’t like me. Or, that person is swerving on the freeway because he’s drunk.

Then you find out that he didn’t call back because he was in a meeting. And the person swerving on the freeway was having a stroke.

When you do tell yourself stories? Could there be another reason to explain what happened? Can there be another reason? Where can you challenge yourself to change your story?

Changing your story is a very powerful way to reframe the narrative of your life for the BETTER. I have a story right now- which is that I’m stuck in a block, where I don’t want to proceed with my blogging and financial coaching journey because I’m too busy, I have too much going on, I’m not good enough and no one wants to read what I’m writing. I’m dragging myself up from the bottom right now to write this because I DON’T ACCEPT THAT STORY. I’m moving forward despite the evidence.

So today I’m posting this blog to move forward and leave that story behind.

Do you ever feel this way? How did you change your story? Please share it with me in the comments section below.

What is your vision?

If you’re reading this blog, you are interested in improving your life. You are curious, full of life, and joyful. You know good things are possible for you.

You may have done self-development work, you may have worked with a therapist. You know how important it is to put the work in.

My question to you is this… What do you want?

What have you been honing your precious brain to create?

What amazing dream of yours is about to be revealed? We all have something inside that is ours alone. We may be really good at helping others, which is great because together we can go far, AND lets give the world something to help us with.

What do you want to create?

What can I help you with?

I really want to know. When I hear from you, I can create better. When I know you, I know how to help you.

I invite you to write your answer in the comments section of this blog.

What is Financial Coaching?

Financial coaching is a fairly new concept. It’s not like financial advising, which includes selling products such as life insurance and retirement plans. I don’t sell products, nor am I licensed to give financial advice. What I can do is help you with your budget. This service is for people who need help with overspending, with paying down debt, or figuring out how to stop living paycheck to paycheck.

I help you look at your expenses and decide where you can cut down on expenses, or plan better so you’re not scrambling to pay unexpected bills. If you’re someone who puts off looking at your finances, I’m here to help.

Schedule your 15 minute curiosity call and we’ll talk about what you need, and if my services are right for you!

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Vision Calendaring

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Once a month, in-person, financial life-goals group strategy session. Local to West Los Angeles.

Please join us!

This meetup is for people who have a financial goal in mind that they want to see accomplished! You’ll go home with a visual reminder of what you need to do to accomplish every step along the way! Do you need to pay off debt? Take a mini-retirement? Save up for a launch? Get off the paycheck-to-paycheck merry-go-round? If yes, then this workshop is for you!

In this meetup we will identify the unconscious money blocks that have been preventing you from moving forward.

We will help your brain create a new reality in which YOU SUCCEED.

You will expand on the idea of a vision board by setting up SMART goals that will walk you towards your big picture dream goal.

Then we share our visions, create accountability partners and Make Money Happen!

You’ll make connections in the group to help you stay accountable – super important especially if these steps take you out of your comfort zone. (Hint: it’s a really good sign if you’ve got goals that make you uncomfortable with their greatness!)

We will start by envisioning the end goal, then choose specific, measurable, achievable and realistic steps you’ll need to take to get there. You’ll then pick dates on a timeline to work towards reaching those mini-goals.

1:1 Get $tarted Session

1:1 Get $tarted Session

Do you want to get your finances in order?

Meet with me for 2 hours and get ‘er done. I will hold your hand while we look at your income and your expenses, and let the numbers do the talking. We set you off on a plan to reach your goals- whether that’s paying off debt, accumulating savings, or a combination of the two. You’ll make the decisions on where you can stop spending and where you can splurge, to live a life that’s worth living. Take this step towards reaching your dreams.

Click here to set up a 15 minute quick call to see if this is a good option for you.